I am agnostic..and always aware that the "original sources" had their won bias. That's all.
Amyntoroas, I especially can see what you are saying about the patriarchal lineage thing. Though I think the "sick and wounded" were more a true pain in Alexander's side rather than a burden. It was better to simply get them out of the way, with their old Macedonian ways so he could go on with his consolidation (rather than fusion) of his new empire. I wonder how much Alexander really cared about the "homeland" in the end. As to what the homeland might think of his actions, did he really care and if he had survived a few more years would he have even paid any real attention to it as anything but another "satrapy". Not that many of the Successors were all fired in a hurry to get back to Macedonia either...at least the ones who survived Antipater. Seleucus wanted to amble back there at the end of his life, but yet another of Ptolemy's ambitious children saw to it that never happened. Though all seemed to want to be ruler of the old home.
I am not claiming I am correct about the lack of Persian men marrying Macedonian women. However, the Susa marriages seemed planned fairly quickly, and ATG wanted them done quickly, perhaps not quickly enough for any Macedonian women to get to distant Susa.
Another reason might simply be that there weren't that many "noble" Macedonian girls either...or they were already married off.
It's really so hard to say...the little bugger went and died and others were left to retell the tail in their own image or what was politically expedient at the moment.
I spend too much time on politics, but even now, in real time i see how spin can take hold of the narrative. Myths, newly minted, become "known fact"...and believed. If this can happen in this age of the way back machine and Google...I find it hard to see the real truth, or rather truths, from an age that is described centuries later...though I have hopes that archaeology will continue to shed real light on the period. When i went to university, the eastern Greek kingdoms were barely acknowledged and very poorly understood...I suppose they aren't yet..Bactira and later even in NW India. Ai Khanum wasn't even in the text books yet. A whole world existed, post Alexander, that we really don't know much about. The best way to describe my general ancient course about this period was "Alexander died...oh look! It's the Romans!".
It is just a musing.
Paralus, the extra rations to the women and children happened right before the Beas/Hyphasis mutiny. I think it is talked about in Diodorus 17. 94-95. About the same time he allowed the men to plunder the countryside.
“Attahrias! Attahrias! Are you just going to sit there whinging at Peucestas for spoiling yet another bloody victory or trade that pesky Greek general and get me back? Well? Are you? I tell you Attahrias, you old Macedonian goat, if you don’t get of your spotty Macedonian….”
Exactly.