After some discussion on the Pothos Forum, it was felt it might be useful to include here all the references to Alexander's sexual life - whether with women or men. Because of copyright questions, it is not currently possible to include full quotations from the sources, merely the references themselves.
No attempt is made here to discuss the various characters, whether their very existence or the nature of their relationship with Alexander. See the "Lovers" article above for more information, the short biographies in the "Main Characters" and "Minor Characters" sections; or why not join the Forum and ask your own questions about the people who inhabited Alexander's life?
What follows is as complete a list of the references that we have compiled so far. If and when we uncover any more we will add them.
References compiled by Amyntoros (mainly) and Marcus (a bit).
Aelian, 3.23; Arrian, Indica 18.8; Athenaeus, The Deipnosophists 13.603a-b; Curtius, 6.5.22-23; Curtius, 10.1.22-38; Plutarch, Alexander 67.3-4; Plutarch, Moralia 65C–E
Curtius, 7.9.19
Aelian, 12.7; Arrian, 1.12.1; Arrian, 2.27.4; Arrian, 7.4.5; Curtius, 7.9.19; Diodorus, 17.107.6; Diogenes Laertius, 4.2.14; Diogenes Laertius, 5.1.27; Diogenes of Sinope, Letters 24; Lucian, Herodotus or Aetion Excerpt from Chapters 4–6; Lucian, A Slip of the Tongue in Greeting Excerpt from Chapters 6–11; Lucian, The Dialogues of the Dead 12 (14); Plutarch, Alexander 39.5; Plutarch, Alexander 47.5-7; Plutarch, Moralia 180D; Plutarch, Moralia 181D; Plutarch, Moralia 332F–333A; Plutarch, Moralia 337A; Plutarch, Moralia 339F–340A
Arrian, 2.12.6-8; Curtius, 3.12.15-17; Diodorus, 17.37.4-6; Valerius Maximus, 4.7 ext. 2a
Aelian, 7.8; Arrian, 7.14; Arrian, 7.16.8; Arrian, 7.23.6-8; Cornelius Nepos, Eumenes 2; Diodorus, 17.110.8; Diodorus, 17.114-115; Epictetus, 2.22.17–18; Justin, 12.12; Lucian, Slander 17–19; Plutarch, Alexander 72.1-3; Plutarch, Eumenes 1; Plutarch, Pelopidas 34
Plutarch, Alexander 22.1-2; Plutarch, Moralia 1099C; Plutarch, Moralia 179D–181F